http://product-image.tradeindia.com/00274000/s/0/Brass-Handi-.jpgI was pondering about this issue for quite a while; whether to write about it or not. It had been some time you would have noticed that I actually wrote something.
Anyway, throw rotten tomatoes at me if you have to.
The situation I am about to tell you came from a conversation some few dinners ago:
In a marriage (I think this does not apply to live-in relationships), if a particular spouse in anger chooses to break a family heirloom of another spouse to prove a point, how should the other spouse react?
In impulse people might do anything but common sense (however uncommon it is) would be somewhat exercised in most sane individuals.
Nothing crass, crude nor drastic.
If it was up to me, I would plainly pack all the other heirlooms (from the ancient hairpin to the one-of-a-kind brass idli maker) and send it to some other relative where it is probably safer and appreciated.
My point is heirlooms are not just things, they represent your heritage.
A part of who you are.
If your spouse could not respect that and choose to fire their neurons at such an astounding cranial capacity, to do something so intelligent --- either they have some underlying psychological problem or its time to think what you are doing in the relationship.
It is not just a thing,
It is not about you valuing a thing more than a person,
It is not about being a MCP,
It is about you
and about you knowing that you have self-worth and dignity.
Somehow that element is lost in most relationships these days.
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